Love Yourself First, Take Up Space, and End One-Sided Friendships to Protect Your Inner Peace

Embracing change in your relationships is the key to finally finding freedom, joy, and friendships that feel like soul nourishment—not silent suffering.

 

Let’s stop glamorizing being “low-maintenance,” shall we? That whole vibe of being easygoing, unfussy, and "cool with whatever" is just code for being forgotten. Overlooked. Undervalued.

You weren’t born to make yourself small so people would keep you around. You were born to take up space.

And when you truly love yourself first, you’ll stop settling for relationships that can’t hold your full self. You’ll start choosing inner peace over popularity, and embracing change over staying stuck in outdated connections.

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👀 The Truth About Why You’re Still Feeling Lonely (Hint: You've Gotta Love Yourself First)

So many smart, loving women are stuck in friendships that look great on Instagram but feel empty in real life. You have friends. You go to brunch. You send the birthday texts. But deep down?

• You feel like no one really gets you.
• You’re the giver in every dynamic.
• You feel unseen, unheard, and unappreciated.

This is your soul telling you: Love yourself first because you deserve more. You deserve inner peace.

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🌈 Embracing Change Means You Might Outgrow People—and That’s Okay

Listen, not every friendship is meant to last forever. Some people were your healing companions. Others were mirrors of your old patterns—people-pleasing, codependency, low self-worth.

But you are not her anymore.

Now, you love yourself first.
Now, you choose inner peace.
Now, you are fully ready to embrace change—even if it means walking away.

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✍🏽 Journal Exercise: Choosing Inner Peace and Authentic Connections

Let’s set the vibe for your next chapter of connection.

My Embracing Change Self-Worth List:

• I love myself first by saying no when I mean it.
• I protect my inner peace with boundaries, not guilt.
• I embrace change in my relationships, even when it’s hard.
• I no longer abandon myself to be liked.

This is your new standard. Let it guide you.

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💞 A Love Letter from Someone Who's Been in Your Shoes

Hey Beautiful,

I know you’ve tried. You’ve shown up. You’ve been everything for everyone. But now it’s time to be everything for YOU.

You’re not here to be palatable or pleasing. You’re here to be real, radiant, and fully alive. You are worthy of deep connection—not just convenience. You are deserving of joy, reciprocity, and the kind of love that makes you feel seen.

Let this be your soft rebellion:
Love yourself first. Protect your inner peace. Embrace change like it’s your birthright.

Because it is.

I promise you—when you choose yourself, the right people will find you. The ones who text first. The ones who ask about your dreams. The ones who bring you cheesecake when you’re low—not just energy drinks when you’re their emotional support human.

You are not too much. You are the exact amount of magic this world needs.

With all the love in my healed heart,
Your Self-Healing Sister, Frida

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💥 Closing Note:

People-pleasing is a lonely game. But you don’t have to keep playing it.
The moment you start loving yourself first is the moment you step into real, lasting inner peace. That’s when you attract the right people—people who cherish your truth, not just your performance.

Embrace change. Protect your inner peace. Love yourself first. Always.